As your history with him has shown, he likes spending his weekends with you. I agree something seems off here, because they have lived together ALMOST THREE weeks, and go to his parents house NEARLY every weekend, but only since they have lived together. My boyfriend goes to his mom and dads every weekend doesnt think me or my children with him he used to text me all the time and call me he doesnt do that anymore weve been together 3 years and there any place he ever takes me is to the grocery store and back home and he doesnt even hardly touch or kiss or anything anymore I tell him I love him all the time hell tell me back but I feel that he just tells me because he doesnt want it to hurt me. ReginaRey That sounds like two out of three, and maybe that was because of the holidays. After a year and a half of this, I asked my ex if we could have a parent-free Sunday, just us. I Hate My New Job After 2 Days Is it Horrible To Quit? This LW specifically has a problem during the summer/fall months (so 6 months tops, depending where she lives) when he gets to come home *only some weekends* so not every single weekend, and he spends a majority of his time with his family and the LW. They never left the apartment unless they had to for school more or less, and they always came straight home. Im very independent , so it doesnt bother me too much just because I do my own thing anyway but it is still frustrating. Hey, were in 100% agreement today, as opposed to 80%. But I have too much shit to do at work today so Ill spare everyone my tangent. i think the dysfunction wouldnt come from just the time spent, like the literal hours, i think the dysfunction would come from the things surrounding the time spent- the guilt, ect. January 20, 2012, 9:27 am. Thats why he wants to help them all the time and probably helps them with various jobs every weekend. If that doesnt work if he wont set aside some time for the two of you, or if you need more distance from his family than hes willing or able to manage, then Im afraid its MOA time. or just dinner? January 20, 2012, 11:45 am. If you dont say anything, how in the hell is he supposed to know anything is wrong? January 20, 2012, 10:53 am. Honestly, if my only options after being away for so long are sit at home or visit with people where things are happening, I would choose the later. if it works for you, thats all that matters. Yeah, money is always touchier than anything else. Your boyfriend is spending every weekend at his parents house because you are enabling that to happen. my husband and i dont sit down and interrogate each other. when we went to move in together we just said ok, what price range are you looking for. Read some of the most popular Dear Wendy posts here. Sources: Ive studied psychology and dysfunctional family dynamics for years. When they were planning on adopting, I told her that if this is an issue to where she is left with baby a huge amount of time and resents him for it, its not going to be pretty. Share that with your boyfriend as well. you can let things happen naturally to a certain point but after that there are times you have to have a conversation, unless you want there to be misunderstandings or assumptions made. He knows this because its important to me so I talk about it. One thing that stood out was the mention of the division of expenses, LW even though you put it almost just as an aside, I think its something you really should discuss with your BF. every place has natural wonders. I know many families like this. Once upon a time when you were little, mom and dad did know more than youbut entering adulthood is when you yourself should be acquiring knowledge just as your parents did. Sorry for the cynicism this morningits Friday and I woke up with a head cold. If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at wendy@dearwendy.com. In this situation, with a fairly long commute, this guy is devoting if not the entire weekend to seeing his parents, then at least a huge chunk of it. Yet another letter from a LW who has the perfect boyfriend EXCEPT for one small, oh, you know, majorly epic, MASSIVE tiny thing she wants changed. Let your boyfriend stay at his parents longer and do something else in the meantime. and it sounds like she hasnt even tried to discuss this current issue with him. Besides, the whole point of living in NYC is so you dont have to rely on Metro North to get int to the city on the weekends amirite!? My dads side of the family is like this- I have an uncle and aunt who spend every day at my grandparents for at least a few hours. You know I was in a similar situation once, my ex and his parents like to see each other a lot more than I liked to see them. ), and just talk about the big issues in general money, social life, work, goals, values, etc. But, in a very close and codependent family dynamic this doesnt get to really happen much. If not, you need to sort this out. Play frisbee in the park! Id say first, talk to him and say that you dont want to spend every weekend at his parents place. January 20, 2012, 10:57 am. Anne has since finished her probation and has a 5-year-old son who my mother dotes on. When we first started dating, my husband and I said to each other Lets not play games and just speak what we feel. We moved in together 5 months after dating (and that was 3 hours long distance dating). Its time for him to grow up. Whether you need help around the house, want to go on a romantic weekend getaway together, or just want to cuddle while watching movies, youre entitled to it. She kept trying to change it and regularly fights with him about it. He feels guilty for leaving them, feels comfortable with them, or runs away from some problems he has with you. Bike riding? Also, it depends on the relationships within the family. LW, you are not being unreasonable! Schedule some girls' nights out. Get out and DO something. Im not sure how much leverage she has with the parents. WebSince weve been married and as bf/gf When I ask to spend a weekend or day with my family he says he's too tired. In a typical family dynamic there are common roles assumed by different individuals. Bring it up and communicate your feelings and desires. *If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, send me your letters at wendy@dearwendy.com and be sure to follow me on Twitter. It sounds codependent to me. If you split everything while dating, I dont think it is wrong to assume that you will continue doing so once you move in together. Thats what I wondered why does she have to go with every weekend? Or maybe the LW would be more willing to let her boyfriend spend time with his parents on his own during the weekend, if she could spend weekday nights with him. June 18, 2014, 10:47 am. Its hard not knowing when a passing will Youre right, LW, this is dysfunctional. Although, if this has been a pattern for him & its all he knows,& him & his family think its completely normal, the chance of getting him to acknowledge there is an issue is very slim. All I will say is that I could not be with this man. Im not saying get all this stuff figured out in one convo, im saying by the time you move in together you should know most of these things about the other person and you should fill in the blanks on ALL of them moving in together. Ill add that another strategy you could try if those mentioned dont work is to simply spend less time at his parents house yourself. artsielady. A picnic in the park? Other things (chores etc) can be discussed as you go along. I miss just being able to head out into the city at random, looking for things to do, which is what I did when I was single and even when my boyfriend and I werent living together. But Ill tell you what. The BF is emotionally (and physically) unavailable and I dont know that it will change without some sort of drastic action from the LW. I asked him all the time if 1. we could have weekends where we spent more time just with each other and 2. maybe even have one every once in awhile where he didnt see his parents, that was just us my argument being that I never got a weekend to relax at home and have him come to mei was always either driving to him or driving an hour out to his parents for the weekend and spending the night and all that. On one side you get the parents who reinforce their power and superior knowledge over and over again by holding their adult children in the nest, on the other side you get an individual who rather depend on the parents because by the time they are adults its just much easier and normal for them to continue letting mommy and daddy do all the hard thinking for them. Lets not start with how many siblings he has. FireStar demoiselle January 20, 2012, 11:06 am. June 18, 2014, 12:46 pm. i think you are more direct than a lot of people and maybe more communicative. BGM never agrees with the woman. All this to say: LW, your BF would annoy the shit out of me too. For that matter, so do many of the ideas posted here in response. silver_dragon_girl Its not all men, its your man and the LWs. Sorry if someone else mentioned this and I didnt see, but it seems as though the boyfriend moved straight from his parents house to with her, right? Keep in mind that anything that upsets this balance is going to seem drastic. In the end, you owe it to yourself to be cognizant of that. Like I said before, I get along great with them and dont mind visiting them, but I also need privacy and a chance for my boyfriend and me to have a separate life from them. It doesnt scream big problem to me. 03/07/2022 08:00. Im not saying anyones wrong, either. Yeah, they moved in together after only 3 months. That it wouldnt be that big of a deal if the LW and the bf went out a couple of times to visit his parents together and if he went out a time or two on his own. If your hubby is young and just recently married he may also be feeling insecure and needing his bros to lean on. January 20, 2012, 9:36 am. It means they have compatibility issues they need to figure out or they need to break up. And if they live together. If your husband does not agree to any compromise, there is probably another reason why he always wants to spend his vacation with his parents. But to leave your girlfriend every weekend for no other reason than youd rather spend time with your parents than with her is showing a major red flag. I can see it both ways. if the LWs learn this, we will have to find another source of entertainment, findingtheearth I also remind Bassanio of reality: that they visit so often because of the grandkids, the kids are the focus, not him, and his parents wont be crushed if they dont see him, and theyll be back next month anyway. Its a balance. lets_be_honest are they spending every minute of their entire weekend with his family? Also, let him know that the paying for tickets to the suburbs is expensive for you, so ask if he would be willing to limit the number of times that you go to visit his parents (say once a month). Er, the mom will find a reason drop by the LWs place. June 18, 2014, 2:20 pm. Another example is I would assume (i know, i know) if you knew me well enough to be dating me or moving in with me, you would probably know I am a big believer in X Y or X or totally anti XYZ. Do people really just walk around with their heads in the sand all day? ?? This is for your husband to do, but you have to let him know. Im also close to my family, however, I never make my boyfriend feel left out and I always make him feel that he is the priority. ReginaRey muchachaenlaventana Id never visit my parents alone while he was in town, but sometimes wed go there for coffee and a meal. That was seven years ago. For example, my SO knows I would love to adopt one day. Follow along on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. But are they really guilting the boyfriend? seems a little quick to be so worried to me, considering the time of year. One thing you can try before just accepting things as they are or moving on already is to start scheduling activities and day trips on the weekends that your boyfriend is home. Wanting to spend time with family on the weekends isnt exactly dysfunctional., GatorGirl Lemongrass Communication people. You cant expect your husband to not want to see his family, and you shouldnt. My husband and I will go to a public driving range and a large bucket is $9. ForeverYoung GatorGirl I dont understand why were in a relationship if he rather stay at his parents instead and not trying to build a life with me. You can be with his family every weekend and every holiday, but he can never be with yours. January 20, 2012, 9:09 am. Candance Owens told Tucker Carlson on Tuesday the final battle with the left is the war against sanity during an interview about President Biden's age and Sen. John Fetterman's mental issues. But sitting down, and discussing everything as if its just business doesnt sound very appealing to me. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over four months and have been living together for about three weeks. But I really dont think they were spending time in the city together before they moved in, I think she was spending time in the city while he was doing other things. I stand by it. January 20, 2012, 11:16 am. What are the main reasons why he behaves like that: 1. 11. My parents have an awesome house with a huge yard with bike, 4 wheelers, space for baseball, a pool, tennis court (now I sound spoiled)if we lived close enough Id rather hang at their house than our little apartment. LW, what everyone else said. I completely agree with Angelique in that this family dynamic is dysfunctional. My guess is this is the first real issue thats cropped up since they started dating and shes been stricken with communication paralysis. Laura Hope June 18, 2014, 11:41 am. Its super weird that hed rather bunk at mom and dads than yours. Do you just go to your SO and say, Dear, before we do that we have to talk. NOt exactly like you put it, but yes I believe there are certain things (finances mostly) that def have to be discussed prior to moving in with your SO. I guess then that depends on the LWs definition of a routine of spending significant amounts of time at their house nearly every weekend. So, she will either have to accept that this is how they are, or leave. He needs a lot of family time, you need a lot of just-the-two-of-you time. so you dont promote communicating with your partner about money or anything else before moving in? But yeah, having a partner whos very close to their family is not for everyone. Its over the top. What are the main reasons why he behaves like that: A guilty conscience makes your husband go to his family every weekend. What I dont agree with, personally, is doing it interrogation style. Firstly, it will be different for every couple, and secondly, some things you will never find out no matter how long you are dating until you move in together and go to sleep and wake up with each other every single day. Explore a new neighborhood or close-by town? And after 4 months, youre likely just coming out of the Honeymoon Phase. You havent had sufficient time to learn these little things youre just starting to learn. WebTherefore, his wife IS attending family functions on the weekends. Listen and dont judge when he tells you why he likes going to his parents and respect his opinion on that. Eh. Its not explicitly in the letter, by I got the feeling that the weekend visits to bfs family preceded the moving in together, but that she still had some weekend time to herself. . The relationship this man has with his family is dysfunctional and heres why. This boyfriend seems like one of those people whose default is go home. I bet when he lived at home he barely left the house. I have to say, I kind of feel like LW jumped the gun on this one. I wonder if part of this is having to share your time with someone else. And he was a bore. Living with your boyfriend can be the greatest thing, but it can also be a ticking time bomb if you let things go unresolved, especially after only dating for four months. If so thats just about the worst reason in existence for moving in with a boyfriend. June 18, 2014, 12:38 pm. Just remember how he didnt want tomove out of his parents house. I feel like this letter would have been far more appropriate AFTER a conversation where the boyfriend shut her down. Just because you live together does not mean the dating portion of events is over. If the situation is even more complicated, for example, if his parents are old or his siblings have problems, your husband will feel even more guilty for leaving them. Its my little refuge, and sometimes I like coming home and just hanging out on the couch with the BF reading or watching movies. It could be because some people purposely hide some of their not exactly good habits, or because you may never have an opportunity to see the less obvious habits. If she is like lets do XYZ and he says no, lets sit at momsyeah thats a little off. Over holidays if DW got this letter when I think she did. Im glad you are independent but unless it is care duty his behaviour is odd to me, and Id find it hurtful were I you. It would be a waste to find someone you genuinely enjoy spending time with, only to lose the chance to be with them because of your lack of awareness or an inability A day at the lake or beach or some body of water? I would probably always choose vegging at my parents house over mine, or even my boyfriends. This is her perception. I got to see my parents occasionally after work even when he was away. If after that he continues to do the same thing, that tells me that maybe our spending habits may not mesh. If this has only been happening for three weeks, I dont really think you have a reason to worry. January 20, 2012, 10:52 am. Most people dont want to know about the SO cheating, not because of the cheating, but the outcome of the cheating. Not only has this been an incredibly short relationship, but no where in this letter does she say that she has even mentioned to her boyfriend that this is an issue. I would focus on how you miss spending time just the two of you, exploring the city, going to your favorite restaurants, etc. barf. So you are in a happy relationship, and you both of you decide that you want to take the next step. I realize that some situations are delicate, and they may want help on what exactly to say, but this isnt really one of those. Who keeps the dog? I am pretty sure that is not what you meant by your letter, but as we all know, when we are discussing something with significant others, things can sound more severe than they are. ReginaRey I swear, every time I talk to my parents (or Bassanio talks to his) theyre always lightly guilting us about visiting or a family vacation or something. A movie? And when it comes to something as important and serious to me as moving in with someone, assumption just aint gonna cut it. Dont go this weekend. But if that doesnt work, I think you need to accept it or move on unfortunately. I can totally see this though, wanting to chill at the parents. And living together for only 3 weeks isnt enough time to really establish a routine. Pretty much. Five Steps for Maintaining an Open Relationship, When Do You Know Its Time to Break Up With Someone?, My Daughter is Trying to Ruin My Relationship. Come on, BGM! Honestly, if she came back here and said she suggests things to do, or frames her conversations with boyfriend differently, I would have a different response. Which is totally fine for you. January 20, 2012, 9:10 am. He usually wants to go to his parents house every single weekend he gets to come home. Im not saying its come to that yet, but Im suggesting the LW force her bf to choose if he wont honor her wish to stay home once in a while. If the relatives of only one spouse are prioritized, the other spouse will be dissatisfied. You might even consider scheduling family holidays to spend time with Because when you are confronted with a situation head on, and theres pressure to resolve it right this second, the reaction is usually different then if you had a chance to talk it through and come to a mutually satisfying solution. Did you guys actually read this letter? Maybe he just needs to be broken out of his pattern. But I think what struck me is how little they seemed to have discuss things social preferences, money, etc. CottonTheCuteDog Exactly! Visiting families and spending time with siblings takes up much time in a marriage. January 4, 2021, 3:30 am. I think the commenters who speak of the bf feeling settled and not having to date any more are correct. If I say Im ready to get home on one of those nights, his dad always makes a comment trying to make me feel guilty for leaving even if weve spent the entire day there. Even if it isnt a matter of cutting apron strings or anything, some people just enjoy spending more time with their families than others. That was my first thought. By the time how do we divide furniture? January 4, 2021, 3:41 am. If hes not receptive, as others have said, I think you have your answer on how to proceed. Laura Hope You mention what you used to do when your were single. My point is that the important stuff should be agreed upon or found out with as much subtlety as possible before you even think of moving in together. Not needing to have such a sterile conversation because youve given enough time to learn that about each other naturally and observe how the other person lives? Occasionally, this is fine with me and I understand Im not the only person June 18, 2014, 12:24 pm. ok, well then really were talking about the same thing. June 18, 2014, 12:41 pm. But moving in together may also make you slack on spending time with your own friends and hobbies. , And BGM made the point also that except for what seems like an obvious dealbreaker to most people, they have a wonderful, amazing, great relationship. lets_be_honest Your bf dated you before so you know he is capable of doing it again. A lot of Saturdays, we saw the other set. This can also be a consequence ifhis parents are selfishand manipulate him into feeling bad because he doesnt see them enough. Five months later I was pregnant. Agreed. Thats a long ass time at home, no? He spends 80% of his free time with his parents AND they guilt them when they leave after an entire day AND they show up Sunday morning before he leaves. They used to spend time in the city before living together and now nearly every weekend with his family. So why are you still with him? Letting this fester is only gonna blow the issue way out of proportion. I purposely do this so hell not do the same with me. To me it would be so weird if I came home and was a short drive from my parents, but just sat around my own house vs going there and socializing and seeing my family. As my Irish/Italian grandmother used to say Begin as you mean to go on., rangerchic We will tell you right away that this way of thinking leads nowhere. He told you hedoesnt want to spend Christmas with your family. What I am saying is when you are dating, you establish certain guidelines. Like I said in my comment above, I was determined to pay 50% of everything when I moved in with my now husband, but it just wasnt feasible, so we had to work out what worked for us, and I think it wouldve been better and saved me a lot of worry if we had done so beforehand. It is some throughout that entire period-IDK what that means but to me probably 1-2 weekends a month which isnt really that many. im kind of confused. Some people are just family people, and want to spend a TON of time with their parents/siblings/etc. And I bet your boyfriend will come home a bit sooner if you do! And if we dont decide to go there a weekend hes home, his mom will ALWAYS think of an excuse to drop by for hours at a time. OR maybe he makes more money than she does and doesnt realize the strain on her finances. Yeah I think its just generally not a good idea to more or less automatically join every activity the boyfriend wants to do instead of functioning independently to some degree. Now, I usually call my mom once a week and my MIL occasionally. But if that has been the case and she doesnt want it to continue, she should try to stop it now. So, instead of an adult whos ready to take on the world the result is someone with severely low self esteem that does Not seem to be able to take responsibility or make many if any decisions on their own. Maybe he is making up time for that. January 20, 2012, 12:44 pm. muchachaenlaventana January 20, 2012, 8:23 am. You want to avoid jumping to conclusions and coming off as the bad guy. Dysfunctional that he wants to spend time (a lot, Ill give you that) with his family? Once starting over was a better outlook then staying in the relationship, I or we got out. lemongrass says that maybe he needs to transition from one house to the next, seeing as its only been three weeks. But it sounds like they like things just the way they are. Doesnt the LW ever have anything she needs to get done? 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