No, not intimidated. Death disinhibits the. They wrote her off in the '70s. So I felt what I needed to do was not give the false impression that somehow our relations had been very good, but instead to say they were very complicated. The solid literary achievement and spectacular worldly success that we associate with Sontag was, in Mosers telling, always shadowed by abject fear and insecurity, increasingly accompanied by the unattractive behavior that fear and insecurity engender. That doesn't seem right to me. . Those are all facts. It turned out that if she wanted to try something rather than palliative care during the last months of her life, there was one possibility. The following year, she began sleeping with women and delighting in it. How much did that contribute to her dread? I don't know whether you believe it or not. Well, it sure doesn't help. Features Lord of the Ring November 1996 By Gay Talese. But I usually check in once I get out. Beginning in the 1960s, Sontag became a cultural critic with enormous range, dissecting everything from camp to Marxist critic Walter Benjamin, from photography to how illness is misread as a metaphor for patients' psychology. "Way to never give upBelieve & Achieve!! There seems to be a good deal of bitterness packed into that short sentence. She was somebody for whom extinction -- death -- was unbearable. Against Interpretation and Other Essays, the book of criticism that followed (Notes on Camp appeared in it), three years later, brought her acclaim but hardly made her rich. The other part -- that she made better use of the world -- I don't think that's self-effacing. In fact, she sometimes went further, claiming to have written the entire book herself, every single word of it. I took this to be another one of her exaggerations.. Legendary photographer Annie Leibovitz opens up about her longtime partner, essayist Susan Sontag, in a conversation with "CBS This Morning" co-host Charlie . His father, whom Sontag divorced, was Philip Rieff, author of Freud: The Mind of the Moralist. The most important thing I thought was: It's her death, not mine. Sign up for the Books & Fiction newsletter. If I'm going to edit stuff about her life in the '50s, I'm the only one alive who would know about it directly. Coming out is at issue, in fact. After first describing the crisis and its . You're saying that's not how she should be remembered in the future? From my experience in hospital wards, talking to family members of dying people, I think that a lot of what I describe is the common experience of people. Coming back to my mother's previous experience with breast cancer, I thought, "Well, don't leap to conclusions here. Your mother was an atheist. Fading superpower? To revisit this article, select My Account, thenView saved stories, To revisit this article, visit My Profile, then View saved stories, Two volumes of Susan Sontags diaries, edited by her son, David Rieff, have been published, and a third is forthcoming. Do you lie? Arts Fair Beckett's Eire December 1986 By David Rieff. Features Lehman's Desperate Housewives April 2010 . By David Rieff. . Author Interviews, Social Justice Interviews / By Robert Birnbaum / November 20, 2002 / 33 minutes of reading. The demands this makes on the practitioners powers of discrimination, as well as on his capacity for sympathy, may be impossible to fulfill. David Rieff has written a sobering and often horrifying account of his mother's final days. Why do people speak to biographers about their late famous friends? eBook. Welcome; Issues; One answer is because I'll probably do a better and more responsible job than someone who didn't know her. At seventeen I met a thin, heavy-thighed, balding man who talked and talked, snobbishly, bookishly, and called me Sweet. After a few days passed, I married him, she recalled in a journal entry from 1973. tell funny things) in his presence. It's a weird thing in this age of the Internet. Her essays emanated authority, but her fiction betrayed an aching sense of uncertainty. Rich had been punished for her bravery (by coming out publicly, [she] bought herself a ticket to Siberiaor at least away from the patriarchal world of New York culture), while Sontag had been rewarded for her cowardice. That Matthiessen was queer. PARIS The decision by the U.N. Security Council and NATO to end military operations in Libya on Oct. 31 concludes what appears to be the most . He was Roger Straus, the head of Farrar, Straus, who published both The Benefactor and Against Interpretation and, Moser writes. David Rieff: His mother "was no more reconciled to extinction at 71 than she had been at 42." Sigrid Estrada When she was diagnosed with cancer for the third time, the writer Susan Sontag. David Rieff discusses "Divorcing" by Susan Taubes, an autobiographical novel with phantasmagoric components: the reimagined end of a marriage. You have been a writer for many years, but to my knowledge, it's only been quite recently that you've written this directly about your mother. In Washington these days, people talk a lot about the collapse of the bipartisan foreign policy consensus that existed during the Cold . The wonderful doctor and writer Jerome Groopman likes to quotes Kierkegaard that life can only be understood retrospectively but has to be lived prospectively. by David Rieff | Editorial Reviews. When I asked her about one of her early critiques of the novel, in which she wrote, "I could not stand the omnipotent author showing me that's how life is, making me compassionate and tearful," she called that comment "juvenilia," and said, "It's really hard to be nailed to what one wrote 35 or 40 years ago." And she didn't embargo them. Add to Wishlist. That's a fact. That's a good question. Indeed, many of the apparently rebarbative aspects of Sontags personality are clarified in light of the alcoholic family system, as it was later understood, Moser writes, and he goes on: Her enemies, for example, accused her of taking herself too seriously, of being rigid and humorless, of possessing a baffling inability to relinquish control of even the most trivial matters. So she was going to fight for every breath, no matter how much suffering that entailed. When she came back she put David to bed and then she said, Guess what? "Heady?" David. You mean the Macaulay Culkin syndrome? Father: Gabriel Rieff Mother: Ida (Hurwitz) Rieff Spouse: Alison Douglas Knox Spouse: Susan Sontag child: David Rieff . It's not for me to say how she should be remembered. She was a best-selling novelist and a singular presence -- the brainy, glamorous woman who held her own among the testosterone-filled intellectuals of the period. . I'm just not prepared to talk in any seriously honest and self-revealing way about my relationship with my mother. He writes of him with utter contempt. being a moral coward, being a liar, being indiscreet about myself + others, being a phony, being passive. In August, 1966, she writes of a chronic nauseaafter Im with people. So I felt either they would leak out in one way or another or I could try to edit them to make them coherent. Sontag will be remembered as a philosopher. She was buried in Montparnasse Cemetery in Paris, where many famous writers are buried. Discover David Rieff's Biography, Age, Height, Physical Stats, Dating/Affairs, Family and career updates. She knew more people, did more things, read more, went to more places (all this apart from the enormous amount of writing she produced) than most of the rest of us do. When did you first hear your mother had this form of blood cancer? More books from this author: David Rieff . In the end, I chose to do that. This was in the mid-'70s, a time when American physicians tended to lie to their patients and tell family members something closer to the truth. No, I think I became a writer in spite of her. Rieff has portrayed his mother's final months in 'Swimming in a Sea of Death,' a beautiful and very somber memoir about mortality. Geniuses are often born to parents afflicted with no such abnormality, and Sontag belongs to this group. Read an excerpt of this book! It was a complicated experience. All rights reserved. Herausgekommen ist kein Buch ber das Sterben, sondern eines ber . There were very good times and very bad times between us. Then I flew back. By all reports, she was a terrible mother, a narcissist and a drinker. Which was certainly true of my mother. Rieff, whose most recent book was a memoir about the death of his mother, Susan Sontag (Swimming in a Sea of Death, 2008), has returned to the broader themes of his earlier books (At the Point of a Gun: Democratic Dreams and Armed Intervention, 2005, etc. From 2000 until 2014 I worked exclusively as a pit reporter, interviewing drivers, fans, owners and sponsor executives. R2P, R.I.P. [11], Peter Rose, reviewing Rieff's 2008 book Swimming in a Sea of Death: A Son's Memoir, compares it favourably to Simone de Beauvoir's 1964 A Very Easy Death; he considers the latter "perhaps the finest of filial memoirs. by David Rieff To accuse President Obama of being exceptional in his refusal to embrace American exceptionalism has been a perennial staple of discourse among hawkish conservatives intent on. They are specks on it. Copyright 2023 Salon.com, LLC. First of all, I think that argument does a real disservice to human variety. I didn't feel that my interests could be put ahead of that. Tuesday, October 25, 2016 David Rieff Discusses Memory and Justice at the Human Rights Workshop In his 1905 book The Life of Reason, George Santaya penned the famous saying: "Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it." Human rights activists generally agree. Rieff refers to writing as "the family olive oil business." Jackie Onassis. Vanity Fair Archive. His second wife and widow Alison Douglas Knox died December 12, 2011. He mocks his fake upper-class accent and fancy bespoke-looking clothes. It's a long shot: an adult stem-cell transplant, a bone-marrow transplant. SALON is registered in the U.S. Patent and Trademark Office as a trademark of Salon.com, LLC. By contrast, it would seem that your mother had anything but a good death. In addition to her graduate work, and caring for David, Sontag helped Rieff with the book he was writing, which was to become the classic Freud: The Mind of the Moralist. She grew increasingly dissatisfied with the marriage. She wanted to be lied to. Before the transplant, I thought the odds were bad. But he says, I am anything but certain that I did the right thing, and, in my bleaker moments, wonder if in fact I might not have made things worse for her by endlessly refilling the poisoned chalice of hope., In the end, Rieff realizes that the story he is telling is about ends, the brute fact of mortality. Sontag was not alone in her bafflement about extinction. The physician was not a very empathetic guy. 1. Do you insist on telling the truth when it's perfectly clear the person doesn't want to know the truth? His mother is essayist, novelist, filmmaker, and political activist Susan Sontag, as iconic an intellectual as our resolutely anti-intellectual culture is ever likely to recognize. In a tender account of her final illness, her son David Rieff recalls how he colluded with his mother's fantasy that she wasn't dying - and what this ultimately cost him after she had gone, Original reporting and incisive analysis, direct from the Guardian every morning, America, 1967: David Rieff and mother Susan Sontag. I do wish that. The child of the alcoholic is plagued by low self-esteem, always feeling, no matter how loudly she is acclaimed, that she is falling short, he writes. In fact, I think once you write a book, it doesn't belong to you anymore. Mosers anecdotes of the unpleasantness that she allowed herself as she grew older ring true, but recede in significance when viewed against the vast canvas of her lived experience. When Max Brod wrote the famous first biography of Kafka, every future biographer has tried to point out what Max Brod left out. They divorce in 1958. Associated Press articles: Copyright 2016 The Associated Press. Everything that could go wrong did go wrong after the transplant. It seems that something has changed for you, and you wanted to engage with your mother more directly in print. Pathologically so. Within a few months Nunez moved into Rieff's bedroom, and Sontag gave her a private study for her work and the promise of a mentor-student relationship. Another answer is that if I had her journals in my possession after she died, and they were simply mine to dispose of as I wished, I don't think I would have published them. She found a physician at the great cancer center in New York, Memorial Sloan-Kettering, a brilliant man who had all the human skills the first doctor did not. After a 30-year silence, the gloomy social theorist Philip Rieff is back with four books. Who does she think she is?. She hoped that I and other people in her life would give her reason to hope. There's something obscene about sitting at a desk, in a chair that corrects the posture, sipping warm, sugary tea, yawning or scratching, barely . When the diaries resume, it is in a mood of settled frustration with the misalliance. [12], Rieff has one child, a daughter (born 2006).[13]. My mother had a big library. The son of Sontag and sociologist Philip Rieff ("pop," below), whom Sontag married at 17 then divorced in 1958, David has written a memoir of Sontag's painful final days. When you say "grace," it lets family members off the hook. "My father was to the right of. Her first novel, The Benefactor (1963), is a very advanced kind of experiment in unreadability. Nunez, in her memoir, set in the Straus period, wrote of the Riverside Drive apartment: Its main feature was the growing number of books, but they were mostly paperbacks, and the shelves were cheap pine board. [8][9] His 2016 article in The Guardian, "The cult of memory: when history does more harm than good"which argues that some mass atrocities are better forgotten[10]sparked a debate at the International Center for Transitional Justice. Usually this means someone who accepts dying and stops fighting it. Not only did you write this memoir, you're also editing her diaries and helping put out some of her unpublished essays. I have the impression that this is the way your mother had to die. But that doesn't mean that was what was most valuable about her work. David Rieff on the Novelist Aleksandar Tima, Whose Writing Was an Antidote to Banality and Kitsch. And I really looked. In his account of Sontags worldly success, Moser shifts to a less baleful register. I knew children of well-known people in my school and other places. The erudition for which she is known was part of a passion for culture that emerged, like a seedling in a crevice in a rock, during her emotionally and intellectually deprived childhood. I have a library anyway. So the suffering was extraordinary. Later in the book, Moser can barely contain his rage at Sontag for not coming out during the AIDS crisis. What I'm saying is that the right way for one person to die may not be the right way for another person to die. The idea that one good death fits all seems incredibly reductive to what human beings are all about. It's just that she changed her mind about the novel. Intimidated? As David Rieff points out in his illuminating study, In Praise of Forgetting: Historical Memory and Its Ironies, by 2045 the last survivors of Nazi atrocities will be dead. David Rieff (/rif/; born September 28, 1952) is an American non-fiction writer and policy analyst. She became the model of an intellectual woman who had both great flair and moral profundity. Her father, Jack Rosenblatt, the son of uneducated immigrants from Galicia, had left school at the age of ten to work as a delivery boy in a New York fur-trading firm. I didn't think it was particularly odd. Given who she was, there was no other way. Once she died, I asked the other people in the room to leave. But I know it's preposterous. So after I'm gone, nobody is going to be able to publish them. In the last days, she kind of withdrew. He notes Rieff's "caution and misgivings", and finds especially compelling the essay where Rieff laments the gap between the misery and violence "outside the gates of the Western world" and the obstacles that prevent the West from assembling the strength, whether military or moral, to resolve the problems. They had sex on several occasions, in hotels. Simon & Schuster, 179 pages, $21. Also, I wasn't a prodigy. A new biography of Susan Sontag is set to claim that the American writer was the true author of her first husband Philip Rieff's seminal work Freud: The Mind of the Moralist.. Out in September . She took more pleasure in the world than I do. She was trying to be cheerful. In most cases, the motive is benign: the informant wants to be helpful, wants to share what he knows of the subject, believing that the particulars he and only he is privy to will contribute to the fullness of the portrait. November 11, 2005. But she was one to whom it was just terrible news. Rieff (who did not credit her) got a job at Brandeis University, and in the. And my mother enjoyed the world more than I do. Reproduction of material from any Salon pages without written permission is strictly prohibited. He conducted the ceremony in Victor and Annie Navasky's front room, with David Rieff and Steve Wasserman as my best of men.) In the early 1950s in Cambridge, Massachusetts, Taubes and her then husband, the rabbi and philosopher of ideas Jacob Taubes, were the closest friends of my parents, Susan Sontag and Philip Rieff. Be consistent. Discretion so quickly turns into indiscretion under the exciting spell of undivided attention. Want to Read. While we watch reruns of Law & Order, Sontag seemingly read every great book ever written. At a time when homosexuality was still being criminalized, Rich had acknowledged her lesbianism, while Sontag was silent about hers. Author: David Rieff. Ad Choices. We had a complicated relationship. : Simon & Schuster, 2005, 288 pp. I didnt say anything. Jan 2000 - Dec 201516 years. Sure. They're stand-alone projects. She was much more interested in experimental art when she was young than she became later in life. On her third visit, Nunez met Sontag's son, David Rieff, and shortly thereafter the two began dating. made Susans career possible. 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars. Rate this book. He published every one of her books. She refused to accept any consolation from the hope of an afterlife. She wasn't focused on the present or any of us. His father, the sociologist Philip Rieff, wrote his own masterpiece, "The Triumph of the Therapeutic: Uses of Faith After Freud." And I decided, finally, that I would tell the truth about anything that I could tell the complete truth about. in history in 1978. apple.news. There was tremendous intellectual affinity between Sontag and Rieff. I don't know that being cheerful is better than being a melancholy person. Of course she knew who was opening the door. It's funny. A lot of what I describe in this book has nothing to do with the particular personality of David Rieff, or the particular personality, let alone celebrity, of Susan Sontag. By David Rieff. Mosers biography, for all its pity and antipathy, conveys the extra-largeness of Sontags life. Your book is remarkably self-effacing. Treacherous, Eva Kollisch, a pissed-off girlfriend from the sixties, tells Moser, as if she had been expecting his call for half a century. Rieff chose to bury her in Paris' Montparnasse cemetery, steps from Simone de Beauvoir, and in the posthumous company of Jean-Paul Sartre, Emile Cioran, and Raymond Aron. . I hope the book is helpful in that way. In 1938, while in China, Jack died, of tuberculosis, leaving Mildred with five-year-old Susan and two-year-old Judith to raise alone. Sontag was accused of humorlessness, but in fact she was guilty only of high-mindedness. Rieff, David 1952- views 2,396,422 updated RIEFF, David 1952- (David Sontag Rieff) PERSONAL: Born September 28, 1952, in Boston, MA; son of Philip Rieff (a university professor) and Susan Sontag (a writer and critic). . A new book is as unillusioned about the writer as she was about herself. (When I was to be wed, I chose a rabbi named Robert Goldburg, an Einsteinian and a Shakespearean and a Spinozist, who had married Arthur Miller to Marilyn Monroe and had a copy of Marilyn's conversion certificate. You Save 24%. She was the smartest girl in the class, but she couldnt figure out why shewehad to die. And I was too unwilling to pay that price, so it took me a long time to become a writer and pay that price, which I did. So not just her papers, but the books, too? One of her duties, she tells Judith, was to read and then write reviews of both scholarly and popular books that Rieff had been assigned to review and was too busy or too lazy to read and write about himself. The marriage lasted eight years during which their son, David Rieffa writer and editor of his mother's personal journalswas born. D avid Rieff Granta, 16.00 IN TRYING to pay a fitting tribute to his mother, Susan Sontag, David Rieff offers a partial and self-centred account of her final years. It's too obvious not to be true. Do you think it's not an accident that the area you carved out for yourself as a writer -- going to war-torn countries and covering foreign affairs -- was very different from what your mother wrote about? I was told by her doctors that she would die quite soon. How should she be remembered? Both a memoir and an investigation, Swimming in a Sea of Death is David Rieff's loving tribute to his mother, the writer Susan Sontag, and her final battle with cancer. . I knocked on the door. He is working on a book about the global food crisis. But she made it very clear what she wanted. I don't know if I would have destroyed them or simply left them for other people to deal with after I'm dead. Do you think her great achievement was the fiction she wrote in her last years? I was coming back from about a month in Israel/Palestine, where I was trying to do a story on Yasser Arafat. to violate the privacy that friends, dead or alive, assumed to be inviolate when they allowed you to know them? Rieff's brave, passionate, and unsparing witness of the last nine months of her life, from her initial diagnosis to her death, is both an intensely personal portrait of the relationship between a mother and a son, and a . Also learn how He earned most of networth at the age of 68 years old? He was a commander in the Armenian army in Nagorno-Karabakh fighting Azerbaijan during the First Nagorno-Karabakh War in the early 1990s.. Melkonian left the United States and arrived in Iran in 1978 during the beginning of . If you have a grave and your bones are there, it's somehow less confirming of extinction. Yet every signal she was giving me was, "Give me hope. It's all at UCLA. She emerges from it as a person more to be pitied than envied. On the contrary, she was very pleased that I was a writer and encouraged me in every way. As far as the relevance or importance of her work in the context of the long history of literature and criticism, I think history will sort that out. Oh, you never set the record straight. Photograph: Everett Collection/Rex Features. Fortunately, I don't keep my journals. You're wearing a John Lennon cap. If the journals authenticate Mosers dire portrait, his interviews with friends, lovers, family members, and employees deepen its livid hue. She fought her illness to the end, implicitly asking those closest to her, including her son, to lie: She didn't want anyone to tell her she was dying. A SHORTER "DAY'S JOURNEY" May 1986 By David Rieff. . Plus, receive recommendations and exclusive offers on all of your favorite books and authors from Simon & Schuster. By pushing the child Susan away and at the same time leaning on her for emotional support, Mildred sealed off the possibility of any future lightheartedness. Sontags life was, in Mosers telling, always shadowed by abject fear and insecurity. But it does raise the question: Without the consolation of religion, does the prospect of dying lead to dread? That Norman Mailer has orgies? Women in particular talked about her enormous cultural significance. His second wife and widow Alison Douglas Knox died December 12, 2011. There was much she could have done, and gay activists implored her to do the most basic, most courageous, most principled thing of all, he writes. Features. The best intentions, however, can be broken on the wheel of skillful (or even inept) interviewing. I'm not a confessional writer. The awareness (after-awareness) of how programmed I am, how insincere, how frightened. In February, 1960, she writes, How many times have I told people that Pearl Kazin was a major girlfriend of Dylan Thomas? I was trying to be cheerful. $24.00", "Philip Rieff, Sociologist and Author on Freud, Dies at 83", https://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=David_Rieff&oldid=1136644048, American people of Lithuanian-Jewish descent, CS1 maint: bot: original URL status unknown, Short description is different from Wikidata, Creative Commons Attribution-ShareAlike License 3.0, This page was last edited on 31 January 2023, at 11:28. But all the decisions about her burial are decisions that I made, trying to think through what I thought she wanted. You write that it wasn't just that she desperately wanted to live, she was also terrified of dying. . On this Wikipedia the language links are at the top of the page across from the article title. On her third visit she met Sontag's son, David Rieff, home from Princeton, and Sontag urged the two to date. . What happened to those books? Both a memoir and an investigation, Swimming in a Sea of Death is David Rieff's loving tribute to his mother, the writer Susan Sontag, and her final battle with cancer. Sontag would later write in a more accessible, though never plain-speaking, manner. Aren't you being awfully hard on yourself? I was one of those kids who was always writing stories and thoughts and all that. She didnt like to sleep. It was in the spring of 2004. I hope it has some relevance to people who've never heard of Susan Sontag, let alone of me. But why she became so celebrated, what the combination of elements were -- her public role in the anti-Vietnam movement and other political events; her looks -- I'm sure it was a complicated combination. ISBN-13: 978-0300182798. $18.99 $25.00 Save 24% Current price is $18.99, Original price is $25. Her novel The Volcano Lover (1992), a less universally appreciated work, became a momentary best-seller. All rights reserved. Can you tell me about your mother's last days? 4 Benedict A nderson, Imagined Communities: Reflections on the Origin and Spread . You could set the record straight. In life, I dont want to be reduced to my work. The book publisher had received criticism for removing passages related to weight, mental health, gender and race. Can you explain why they were difficult? The mother pleads with the son to tell her that the excruciating treatment is worth enduring because it will save her life. And over that decade, they had very high highs and very low lows. He could be terse when fielding questions about his relationship with his mother, and he became angry at the notion she suffered a "bad death." If she had survived the bone-marrow transplant (as she had survived the dire treatments for two earlier bouts of advanced cancer), would she have been reconciled to dying of something else later on? Rieff asks. Clear rating. . He invited her to a New Years Eve party and then left, without a word, with another woman. Moser adds, The incident goes unmentioned in her journals. In another unmentioned incident (until Moser mentions it), Levine is surprised when Sontag tells him that she is going to pick up her son from a schoolmates house: This is not Susan. I would've liked to have said certain things to her. Guideline Price: 14.99. Conversations about the past. It wasn't terrible. . Don't speak about him to others (e.g. The dauntingly erudite, strikingly handsome woman who became a star of the New York intelligentsia when barely thirty, after publishing the essay Notes on Camp, and who went on to produce book after book of advanced criticism and fiction, is brought low in this biography. In the literary world, their relationship was a source of fascination: of envy for writers who longed for a protector as powerful and loyal; of gossip for everyone who speculated about what the relationship entailed. They weren't mine to keep. And that's all I propose to say about Annie Leibovitz. He completed college at Princeton University, graduating with an A.B. Moser accepts her grievances at face value and weaves them into his unsparing narrative. It's a striking contrast. David Rieff, a New York-based journalist, is the author of eight books. But that's impossible if you decide not to acknowledge the fact of dying. There are certainly religious traditions that don't believe in an afterlife. My father had a big library. No, I think that's something people say to console themselves. were often strained and at times very difficult. 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